Coming Out Lesbian, For The Third Time
A while back I was very pleased with myself. I had come out to all my friends and relatives. I had even broached the final frontier and come out at work. I thought I was finally free of the closet! Or was I? As it turns out, I was in for a rude awakening. Coming out never ends. It is a process that you will have to go through time and time again. Each time you meet a new friend, each time you change a job, or move to a new neighborhood the coming out process starts again, each time you meet a new set of people.
So what’s the secret to coming out over and over again and keeping your sanity? For me, simply normalizing the process has eliminated nearly all the stress of coming out. Here’s what I mean by normalizing. In conversation, people will often refer to their spouse or boyfriend when discussing weekend plans or describing their life. “My husband and I are going to the movies on Friday.” or “I live with my boyfriend and two kids.” I simply have the same conversation, only substituting the word partner for husband or boyfriend. “My partner and I are going to the movies on Friday.” “I live with my partner and three dogs.” I don’t announce the fact that I am a lesbian. I live the fact that I am a lesbian. Other people can listen, observe and form their own conclusions.
Normalizing the coming out process has a few advantages. First of all it de-dramatizes the process. When we de-dramatize coming out we exude confidence and send a message that being gay is OK. When we are comfortable with ourselves, others tend to be more comfortable with us also. When we take our lesbianism in stride, others tend to take it in stride too.
Normalizing also reduces the stress of coming out. Speaking about our partners as a matter of course, just like straight people talk about their spouses, simply becomes a habit, requiring little or no thought. Coming out then becomes a simple and natural part of your daily life.
For those who are coming out for the first time, there really is no way around the jitters and anxiety. But for those of us who have been through the process already, normalizing is a great way to live your life in an open and honest way.
Pat Cheney is a life coach working with gays and lesbians who are coming out in midlife. She also works with lesbians to strengthen and energize their relationships. To find out more about her services, visit Pat’s website at www.discoveringpride.com.
Do You Want To Overcome The Fear Of Failure?
If you have a fear of failure, you’re not alone. Many people do. However, the fear of failure can do more than keep you from being successful. It can also hold you back in other areas, including simple life enjoyment. Often times, fear of failure develops over a period of time, often triggered because you did not get the acceptance and approval you needed from those who were important to you as you were growing up.
If you were raised in a particularly negative environment and received little praise for what you did, you may be among those who experienced fear of failure. Even as you strove for positive recognition and encouragement, you may have learned that no matter how well you did or how hard you tried, it wasn’t good enough.
This may have resulted in low self esteem and may even have become a self-fulfilling prophecy, feeding negativity. Over time, you may have developed an ever-present fear of failure that has made you reluctant to try anything new. If this has carried over into adulthood for you, you may fear that you’ll never succeed in anything you do.
Fortunately, you can overcome this fate. Here are six things to remember:
1. There is a relationship between fear of failure and the resulting (or even preceding) lack of success.
Even though a lack of success and fear of failure have some things in common, they are different. If you lack success, you haven’t succeeded for one reason or another. If you have a fear of failure, you won’t even try to succeed, which in turn of course will lead to a lack of success.
Let’s take a look at how much effort you’ve applied to succeeding at something. Do you see a pattern whereby you stop trying once you’ve lost confidence? If this is you, it’s something that can change and is in fact the biggest reason people fail to succeed. How long did you honestly, truly try before you stopped even trying to succeed with a particular endeavor? Stop for a moment and think about when you’ve lost confidence and subsequently given up trying.
2. How much time and effort do you give something before you give up?
Of course, no one is saying that you need to keep trying endlessly (especially in the same ways) at something that simply isn’t going to work. However, if you have experienced a fear of failure or lack of success previously, you may not have the patience and persistence you need.
Remember that successful people, too, have experienced failure. The difference is that they picked themselves up after such failure and gave things another try, perhaps taking a different tack. Increasing the amount of effort you give something without feeling overly stressed or willing to give up too soon is something you need to pay attention to.
3. Build relaxation into your schedule
Of course, you shouldn’t simply sit back on the couch and watch TV all day, but you do need to build breaks into your day so that you don’t get overly stressed and tired, which can lead to giving up overall. If you have an excess amount of stress and negativity in your day, this will give you an even stronger fear of failure. Take regular moments during your day to do something fun that will relax you, exercise, or otherwise take your mind away from the task of the moment. Doing so will put you in a more positive frame of mind and may even allow you to solve a problem you’ve been stuck on. It certainly will also ease the tension.
For example, if you can just work for half an hour before you feel stressed, take a small break every half hour. You’ll have an easier time pushing forward if you know that you’re going to take a break in just a few minutes. In addition, make sure you do push forward with full effort during the time you are working. Knowing that you’ve got regular breaks scheduled is, again, going to help you give your full attention to what you’re working on, which will increase your chances of success.
4. Baby steps are the way to go
Instead of trying to accomplish one huge project in its entirety, break it into small and easily achievable steps. Again, take breaks regularly so that you don’t become overly stressed or overwhelmed. If you do this, you’ll come back to your projects fully relaxed and re-energized, ready to tackle problems once again. In addition, this will help keep you positive in general.
5. Keep doing things you know you’re good at
If you know you’re good at something, make sure it’s something you keep doing regularly. If you know you’re good at something, you’re going to feel confident and self-assured when you do it. This, in turn, is going to give you the tools you need to carry that self-confidence and self-assurance into new activities.
With this confidence, you’re much less likely to fail and are also much more likely to take setbacks in stride. Therefore, you can take this confidence and utilize it in the efforts you make for new tasks you’re not yet comfortable with. This, in turn, will make it much less likely that you experience a fear of failure to the point where you want to quit.
6. Regularly boost your own self-esteem
One of the best ways to ensure your success is to make sure your own self-esteem is high. Often times, a fear of failure can have its roots in a lack of self-esteem. As you improve your self-esteem, you’re less likely to fear failure. And rather than relying on approval or acceptance from others, you’re going to be able to turn inward and focus on yourself and your own abilities. This in turn will help you garner self-approval in what you do, which is a much more reliable barometer. This makes others’ opinions of you less important.
If you focus on these keys, in time, you’ll begin to see your confidence grow and your fear of failure weaken. Ultimately, it may disappear altogether.
Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development.
How To Meet And Approach Beautiful Women At The Beach
The beach can be a great place to meet women over the summer months. There are lots of single women there, the location is very relaxed, the women are very attractive, and the beach lends itself to being social.
The truth is that there aren’t that many tricks to this. It really boils down to you starting a conversation with the woman of your choice and going from there. With that said, I am going to give you some tips to help you meet women at the beach.
Your Confidence Is Important
No matter where you meet women your level of confidence is important, but at the beach it is maybe more important then anywhere else. Why? Because at the beach women will be wearing very little clothing and so will you. Those two things could make you extremely nervous and insecure.
You don’t want to be too self conscious about your body. Get yourself a tan before you go to the beach. Try a good sunless tanning solution to get rid of that whiteness before you go to the beach. You may also want to work out a little bit so that your not too soft. You don’t need to be the biggest guy, but a little muscle will help.
You should also get yourself a nice bathing suit. At the very least get yourself something that is in style for this summer. Some nice looking sunglasses should also help improve your look.
Having a nice t-shirt or other summer shirt will also help. I recommend that you approach women with your shirt on if you do have a nice body. It shows the woman that your not trying to impress her.
What To Bring
You should bring just about anything you can think of that would get a woman to interact and socialize with you.
- A Frisbee
- A volleyball
- Beach ball
- A football
- Surfboard (If you know how to surf)
- Sunscreen lotion or oil
- A blanket
- A deck of cards
- Ice and drinks
- Snack and food
How To Meet Her
Go where the biggest crowds are. That is the easiest way to meet women at the beach. Try any of the following:
- Borrow some of her lotion
- Ask her if she would like to throw the Frisbee
- Invite her for a drink
- Just say “Hi” and make small conversation
- Move around. As women walk around you can say “Hi” to them
- Have a question to ask her and her friends.
- Get her opinion on something
Very standard and straightforward stuff. Not all women will be receptive to your approach, but some will be.
Conclusion
As you can see meeting women at the beach is a great idea. Just make sure you aren’t like most men who stair at women. If that’s all your going to do then there is no point in even going to the beach.
Tyler Moss teaches men how to meet and flirt with women. How would you like to meet, date, and attract the woman of your dreams? Now you can by visiting http://www.charmingmanblog.com and learn how to attract women.
The Importance Of Being True To Yourself In Life
Each and every single one of us has a unique set of values, beliefs, and even inspirations that make us who we are as individuals. Naturally, as we progress through life, these very important elements that lie at the very core of our existence will slightly alter and adjust in a manner to allow for the new experiences and situations that we have endured. Life is much like a sea… at one time; we may drift peacefully and quietly atop the glistening waters. Then, there will be situations in which we must work to keep ourselves afloat waters that are ferocious and ominous in nature.
Yes, it is true, there will be treacherous waters and frightening and intimidating clouds that linger among us throughout life, but it is essential that we each realize the importance of being true to ourselves. Is it not true that in the roughest of seas men learn to survive? Is it not among the violent waves that men learn to welcome and appreciate the calm surfaces of the water? Is it not true that when men face the evil of the storm that they relish in the calm that occurs after the thunders and treacherous waves have passed? If you are searching for the importance of being true to yourself, consider the man that was consumed by something much larger than he.
In order to be true to yourself in the midst of peace and calmness, you must stand firm in your beliefs when staring opposition in the face. This is what assists in developing who you are, this is what defines you… your ability to overcome and learn.
Many times in life, we will be faced with temptations that may defy who we are as individuals. It is so much easier to go with the natural flow of the tide than to push against it. It is human nature to want to experience as little complications as possible. What you must consider is if you are denying yourself of some important lesson, of something much bigger than you or you ever imagined. If floating with the direction of the tide defies you as an individual, and you feel as if you will not gain any type of insight as to who you are, or it does not allow you to stand alongside of your personal beliefs and convictions, turn that boat around and push with all of your might against the tide.
It is better for a man to be true to who he is, rather than deny himself of all the rewards he will experience as standing alone in his personal convictions and beliefs.
Being true to yourself is a very rewarding experience. Many experiences and situations will come your way and threaten the very existence of your unique stand in life. We pass over many different waves in life, many ships come in, and many ships pass us by. In many cases, animals of the wild such as sharks will want to engulf us in order to define their existence. Stormy skies will sometimes linger over us, and violent wars sometimes rest on the banks of life. In all of these things, you must stand strong in who you are. Allowing these situations to overcome you, violate you, and even control you in any way, just may be the point in which you lose sight of the horizon, sight of who you truly are.
Compromising your values, compromising your beliefs, compromises not only who you are, but your place in the world. By compromising your place in the world, you may very well be denying another the strength to remain to true to themselves… remember the important and wise saying by Aldous Huxley:
“Experience is not what happens to you; it’s what you do with what happens to you.”
Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of Be Successful News, a site that provides information and articles on how to succeed in your own home or small business.
How You Can Choose A Hypnotist
Hypnotists have become popular for their skills in helping people resolve difficult situations. Hypnosis has been successfully used for smoking cessation, weight loss, relief of social inhibition, confidence building, and much more. If you’ve been trying to solve a bad habit or a roadblock in your life and have not met with success, perhaps you should try hypnosis. It’s not entirely known why hypnosis works, but done properly, it can be a very relaxing way to greatly improve your life.
There are two important factors inherent in making hypnosis work. The first is that you have to be willing to consider it. If you’re going in for a hypnosis session and you are convinced that it’s not going to work, that’s probably going to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead, look at hypnosis as a tool that’s going to help you get past roadblocks you’ve got. You should at least give it a chance to work without being skeptical until you’ve given it an honest try. Another point to consider is that unless you plan to use self-hypnosis, you’ll need to work with a trained and reputable hypnotist or participate in hypnotherapy sessions. For best results, you need to look for a reputable professional. You want someone who has experience with this very valuable tool and can truly use it to your benefit.
It can be a challenge to find a professional hypnotist or hypnotherapist. The reason for this is that hypnosis or hypnotherapy is not regulated in most states. Therefore, it becomes your responsibility to do careful homework and conduct research so that you can find a truly reputable professional. If a hypnotist has been “certified,” he or she will have completed 200 or better hours of training in hypnosis. Nevertheless, even though this training can be extensive, a hypnotherapist does not need to have any type of professional healthcare training.
By contrast, those who have been licensed in healthcare can practice hypnotherapy. Some of those who may participate in this practice include psychologists, doctors and social workers. In this case, the professional in healthcare will complete his or her degree and then will receive additional training in hypnosis. Whether you wish to choose a certified hypnotist or licensed hypnotherapist is your choice. However, research the professional you choose as carefully as you would any other healthcare professional, such as a doctor or dentist. To do so, ask the following questions and make sure you receive specific, honest information in regard to the following:
- Where did the professional you’re considering receive his or her training, residency, etc.?
- What school or university did he or she attend?
- How many years has this person been practicing hypnosis and related training, such as medicine, psychology, etc.?
- Does the professional you’re considering have specific training in a related field such as psychology, medicine, or social work?
- Is the professional you’re considering licensed in a particular healthcare field in the state he or she is practicing hypnotherapy or hypnosis in?
In most cases, if you choose a trained hypnotist or hypnotherapist, you’re going to be safe. These professions and professionals care about you and your success almost as much as you do. However, you should ask the above questions, request references, and check out such organizations as the Better Business Bureau to make sure the organization or professional has no unresolved or excessive complaints. Finally, follow your instincts when you choose your hypnotist or hypnotherapist, since you’ll want one that is not just professional but who will also make you feel comfortable and earn your confidence. If you have confidence and are comfortable with the professional you choose, you’ll be much more likely to have success with hypnosis in overcoming your particular difficulties. This comfort will make you much more open to receiving suggestions and help from the professional you choose.
Kevin Sinclair is the publisher and editor of My-Personal-Growth.com, a site that provides information and articles for self improvement and personal growth and development.
Why “Nice Guys” Suck and Women Don’t Want You
There are many men that feel they are a “nice guy” and that women are crazy to pass them over. Well, I have some news for you dudes.
Nobody cares that you are “nice.”
See, the problem is that “nice” guys put themselves on some sort of pedestal. Nice guys like to think they are superior to other men, that they are better at relationships, and that by virtue of their “niceness” are more deserving of a woman’s romantic attentions.
From experience I can tell you that “nice” guys are not as nice as they like to think. Most “nice guys” are whiney, close-minded, judgmental, spineless, controlling, and weak. Women do not like weak, whiney, judgmental men. Ergo, women do not like “nice” guys.
Women want MEN - decisive, action oriented, determined, aggressive. Sadly, sometimes that comes bundled with a liar and a cheat which is what the “nice” guys point to and the reason they say women are crazy.
But who said that every woman SHOULD want a “nice” guy? Who made that a law? Why do “nice” guys condemn women for choosing thrill seeking, impulsive men with a bad boy edge? In other words, choices that exclude “nice” guys?
Being a “nice guy” does not win you any brownie points in the dating game! Never has, never will. You win at dating when you give the opposite sex what they want. Even if a woman is your wife, you still have to have a spine, still stand strong and remain in control of yourself as a man should.
The bottom line that you “nice” guys need to understand is this: when women are young they are not interested in settling down and being serious. Why would a girl want some clingy, overly solicitous codependent around? Young women want to HAVE FUN. And the best men to have fun with are impulsive, thrill seekers that have an edge… males that exude testosterone and inspire passion and desire with their games and lies.
Which is why “nice” guys that project neediness, that go out of their way to please women with the expectation of getting something in return get passed over. “I was so nice to her, why doesn’t she love me? I deserve to have someone love me more than those players do!” the nice guys say.
No you don’t. But if you want to get the girls you need to be the type of guy that never allows a woman to tell him what to do or to control him in any way. Certainly, in a marital partnership there is established trust and decisions are made with input of both parties for the betterment of the family.
But we are talking about dating here, not marriage.
Just remember, once you allow a woman to have the upper hand in the relationship, she loses respect for you. And when a woman loses respect for a man, she loses her sexual attraction for him as well. She sees you as a brother, and normal people do not feel sexually attracted to their siblings. You are subsequently put in The Friend Zone and you are never coming out. If the two were dating, she will ultimately declare that “he’s too nice” and dump him out of boredom.
There is hope for you guys though.
Bad boy types stay exciting for a few years, then most women move on. Once the play is out of their system (just like in guys), people change their perspectives on life. Their choices in lifestyle, dress, and romantic partners change as well.
As a woman heads into her 30s she transitions and begins to look for a husband and father for her children. She will look for slightly different qualities in her mate and put more emphasis and higher value on personal qualities like honesty, work ethic, family values, responsibility, and similar lifestyle than she does on excitement and sex appeal.
However, even if a woman is 50 years old, she does NOT want a weak, whiney, judgmental, superior acting dude! Every woman on this planet wants a guy that she sees as attractive, exciting and sexy - she just wants him to be committed and devoted to her and the kids at the same time.
Finding the right woman for you is simply a matter of you matching whatever it is that a woman is looking for. If you fit her needs, you’re in. If you aren’t chosen Mr. “Nice” Guy, that simply means you don’t fit her needs. No matter how “nice” a guy you might perceive yourself to be, you aren’t the RIGHT guy for her.
(c) 2008 Deborrah Cooper. Deborrah has authored dozens of relationship articles and advice columns on Ask HeartBeat!, which focuses on modern relationships for teens and adults. Her dating guide Sucka Free Love! provides street-smart, hilarious insight into the toughest issues facing singles today. Check out The Sucka Free Dating Radio Talk Show on Wednesday night at 7:00 pm PST.
Why Women Send Out Mixed Messages To You
One of the things about women that always confused me was how they send out mixed messages. It used to drive me crazy. Does she like me? Does she just want to be friends? Back and forth it would go through my mind.
Does that sound at all familiar to you?
Most men have went though a number of different experiences where that has been the case.
I have since been able to figure this out. I’ll share with you what I have learned.
She Wants You To Reveal More
Whether women realize it or not, they don’t always send clear signals. Many of the signals that indicate interest are just a way to lead you on.
Why would she want to lead you on?
She wants to see how much she can learn about you. She wants to see if you can make her feel tingly inside. This does give you more opportunity to prove yourself, but unfortunately it will rarely work in your favor, because you will think your already doing the right things.
Realize that a woman’s signals can be misleading. She is trying to get you to expose your true colors.
She Likes Attention
Women love attention. Sometimes they will flirt with you just to get attention. Married women do this and you can see lots of women doing it at your favorite club. It’s a great way for her to validate herself as a woman. She only knows that she is beautiful based on the fact that men hit on her allot, compliment her, and so on.
There is a difference between flirting for attention and flirting with intent. Women will use both of these on you.
Your Sending Her Mixed Signals
Often when a woman sends mixed signals its because you are sending her mixed signals.
What?
Yes! You heard me correctly. She is just as confused as you are.
Allot of guys send out behavior signals to a woman that communicates friendship. I know your intentions may be more then that, but she doesn’t always know what your intentions are. So be careful about how you treat her. Are you treating her like a friend? Or… A lover? You better figure it out.
You Changed
How many times have things been going well only for things to suddenly change in your relationship? This happens all the time.
Did you start calling her all the time?
Did you keep telling her how amazing you think she is?
Did you start buying her gifts all the time?
I know what your thinking!
She said she wanted to be treated like a princess and to feel special.
What made you think that she doesn’t already feel that way with you?
It’s okay to value a woman, but don’t overvalue her.
Let her call you sometimes, let her tell you how amazing you are sometimes, and let her buy you a gifts sometimes.
Tyler Moss teaches men how to flirt with women. How would you like to meet, date, and attract the woman of your dreams? Now you can by visiting http://www.charmingmanblog.com Learnhow to attract women/a> the easy way!
Switching From Gay To Straight
If you are gay or lesbian and are unhappy with your lot in life, you may be wondering if it is really possible to change your orientation from gay to straight. And live happily ever after. Well, the research overwhelmingly supports the American Psychiatric Association’s position: the answer is no. You may be able to live as a straight person…anyone can play act…but you won’t really be a straight person. It is just setting up yourself and your future spouse for a lot of pain and short changing. Most of the “research” that claims reparative therapy works is anecdotal, based on testimonials and is biased having been sponsored by the organizations that provide the “therapy.”
So, here’s the bigger question. Why do you want to switch? What is making you unhappy? The biggest factors are usually fear of rejection by family and religious beliefs. Many times these factors are closely intertwined, if your family’s attitudes are shaped by those religious beliefs. Another reason may be general social acceptance. Hey, nobody wants to be excluded.
Where does that leave you if you are gay or lesbian? You can’t change your orientation. You are unhappy in your situation. So, change your situation. Start with examining your attitude toward yourself. Have you bought into all the messages you have heard? Do you really believe those messages? Is it possible your family and religion are wrong about homosexuality? Is it possible society is wrong about homosexuality? YES. Of course it is. Families, societies and religions can be wrong.
Let’s make an analogy. In the South, 200 years ago, slavery was considered a perfectly moral condition: if you were white. Preachers would uphold slavery from the pulpit, citing the numerous Biblical examples available. In fact, the most upstanding citizens in the community were the biggest slaveholders!
We have come 180 degrees in our thinking from that time. We know that slavery is heinous. A legitimate minister would never use the Bible to uphold slavery today. Here are a few other examples of church turn-arounds: eating meat on Friday used to be a sin, celibacy of priests was not mandated until 1139, the earth is now conceded not to be the center of the universe (funny now, but punishable by death in the 1600’s).
So yes, religious beliefs are not static. They can be, and are, changed over time for various reasons that suit either church or political leadership. The takeaway is this: if you know in your heart that you are gay or lesbian, that you were created this way, that you are a good person, that you lead a good life…if you know that…then be at peace with yourself. If you cannot reconcile those thoughts, get help: not to change your sexual orientation, but rather to embrace it. Shed your self-hatred, embarrassment and pain. Accept who you are as you have been created. Go in peace.
Pat Cheney is a life coach working with gays and lesbians who are coming out in midlife and with spouses in gay-straight marriages. To find out more about her services, visit Pat’s website at www.discoveringpride.com.
Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire! Dating, Lies and Deception Are Often a Package Deal
Whether you are a teen new to dating, or recently single again after a breakup or divorce, it pays to date smart! Learn to recognize the behaviors that indicate your date is not being 100% truthful.
Lies of Omission
Your date conveniently “forgot” to mention that there was a spouse at home, a baby on the way with an ex, a live-in partner, or a pending indictment for stalking. Lies of omission are the most common manipulative game singles play.
Your date’s objective is to manipulate your reality by omitting key facts. This puts you at a marked disadvantage, as you think you are getting involved in a situation and with a person that actually doesn’t exist.
To solve this problem don’t be afraid to ask pointed questions. Keep asking until you get a clear idea of who this person is, their availability, lifestyle and goals.
Misrepresentations of Facts
This game involves pretense and deception, again with the goal of getting you involved in a relationship that you would most likely avoid if you had all the facts.
Examples of misrepresentations would be exaggerating income, job title, an interest in you that is more than physical, or feelings of “love” that are really nothing but lust.
Often these misrepresentations involve social status. A man you meet does work at a hospital, but he works as a nurse not a doctor. She did go to college, but does not have a degree because she dropped out.
These types of statements are typically referred to as “little white lies,” and viewed as harmless. But really, how confident can you be that your date is telling you the truth about other aspects of his or her life?
Plain Ole Fat Lies!
Women need to remember that a great many men will say whatever they think you want to hear if it will provide access to your body.
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Unfortunately, most dating singles put a lot of stock on the words they hear. “I love you, you do something to me, I miss being with you” are magical words to many.
To solve this problem, put your emphasis on the behaviors and ACTIONS of your dates instead of the words they speak. If words of love are spoken often, but promised telephone calls never come, romantic dates are broken, and promised gifts are never delivered, you can bet a game is being played.
Lies and games are an integral part of dating, and generally of our modern existence. The smart single pays more attention to what his or her partner DOES than to what is said.
Words can easily be twisted and spun into tall tales and fables. But a person’s actions and their day-to-day behavior, will tell you more about their lifestyle and actual feelings for you than anything else.
If ever in doubt, watch what your partner does and close your ears to what he or she says.
(c) 2008 Deborrah Cooper. Deborrah has authored dozens of relationship articles and advice columns on Ask HeartBeat!, which focuses on modern relationships for teens and adults. Her dating guide Sucka Free Love! provides street-smart, hilarious insight into the toughest issues facing singles today. Check out The Sucka Free Dating Radio Talk Show on Wednesday night at 7:00 pm PST.
5 Powerful Creative Visualization Tips For Transforming Your Life
Creative visualization activates the law of attraction. By imagining things or circumstances as you would like them to be, and making them real in your mind, you’re actually planting a seed that is sure to sprout.
The recent movie “The Secret” introduced the law of attraction to millions of people all over the world. But the law of attraction and the concept of visualization are nothing new. In fact, this great law has always been available. Early self-help authors exposed visualization as the tool to get the law of attraction working for you. Norman Vincent Peale, for example, called it “Positive Imaging”. In fact, that was the title of one of his numerous books.
Visualization is a precious tool. It’s something that is available to all at any time, in any location. And it doesn’t cost a dime. Perhaps that’s why so few value it and use this powerful tool of creation consciously and on a regular basis.
Below are 15 creative visualization tips to help you to recognize and capitalize on your own unlimited powers to create.
1. Choose your goals carefully. Whatever you want can be yours through your thinking, feelings and actions. Decide on something you will commit to having, being or doing in your life. Manifestation doesn’t usually happen overnight. It takes persistence. If what you’re shooting for doesn’t turn you on, chances are you won’t stay with it long enough.
2. Create an image of your desire. Stick to a single target and expand, refine and enlarge the mental picture. It’s the details that help bring your desire to life.
3. Keep it to yourself. Don’t tell anyone else about what you want or how you’re going about creating it. Letting it leak out weakens the energy and leaves you open to negative questions and comments. Get what you want first and then you can tell whoever you want about it.
4. Add emotion to your visualization. Make it so real you can taste it. Put yourself in the picture, fully enjoying the rewards you envision. Lock in those positive feelings so you can relive them again and again.
5. Combine creative visualization with positive affirmations. Affirmations help recondition your old way of thinking, freeing yourself from limitations and allowing you to soar like an eagle. When used together, they provide an explosive combination.
These five creative visualization tips will help you make the most of any visualization session. They’ll add fuel to the burning desire deep inside you. And they’ll help you manifest all you can imagine in life.
The simple process of visualization works. I’ve seen it firsthand and I live it daily. Use these simple creative visualization tips and they will help you get wherever you want to go that much sooner.
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